by
rick3528
on Fri 14 Nov 2003 12:16 AM EST
This is a reply I posted to
another Blogger.
When I was a kid in grade one my teacher had to put a refrigerator box around my desk because I was such a pain in the ass. By grade 7 I had gotten the strap 5 times (grappling with teacher, being late lots, punching girl in mouth, smoking, pulling string on girls halter top) I did not perform well in high school until grade 12.
Started smoking in grade 6, started smoking pot and drinking in grade 8. Stole stuff, sniffed glue, never made curfew. I did not have a dad. Let alone a dad who cares.
I now am a father of 2, I have a 7 year old boy and a 4 year old daughter.
My son is a very tenacious boy, I have to constantly tell him to do this and don't do that. He has had 4 notes from the teacher so far this year. The latest for chasing kids around with scissors trying to cut there hair.
I often wonder if I am too hard on him, if my words fall on deaf ears. Then every once in a while I hear or see something that reaffirms my commitment to him.
An example - I spoke to his teacher about his behavior re one of the notes. During the discussion she told me "your son
never lies" I can not describe in words how proud of him I was. The truth/honesty is something I stress
a lot with him.
(did I say a lot!)
I know (pray) he will not chase people around with scissors all his life, he will grow out of it. I also know adults that can lie through there teeth, who are of poor character and can not be trusted.
What’s the point your asking.
As the old saying goes "boys will be boys" they will break things, they will not listen, they will disobey, they will be 7. But boys grow up to be men and fathers get old and die.
My son will make mistakes throughout his life, hopefully more when he's young than when he's old. But because of something a primary school teacher said to me I know that my son will become a man of his word, an honest man.
Fight you battles but make sure you win your wars. I’m sure your son will remember you for it, forever.